We were not designed to be only one thing.
The idea that we can be only moms is a distortion of the reality of identity, and the idea that in order to be good moms we must be only moms is a damaging lie.
To allow one facet of our identity to consume the rest of us is to forfeit God’s design and to attempt to short circuit the work of becoming ones full self.
Our identities were designed to be multifaceted, multi dimensional, and kaleidoscopic.
To be less than we’re designed to be is to allow facets of ourselves that were created to be vibrant and thriving to become atrophied and malnourished instead.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also a friend.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also a wife.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also a minister.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also an athlete.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also an entrepreneur or professional.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also a student.
You’re not a better mom when you stop exploring the world and pursuing goodness.
You’re not a better mom when you become anything less than a kaleidoscopic human with many passions and interests and gifts and relationships and joys and skills and pursuits.
You are not a better mom when you attempt to perform impossible magic by draining yourself of yourself in order to “have more to give”.
This simply doesn’t work.
You don’t earn the right to be all of yourself by perfecting your parenting or by checking an arbitrary amount of mom boxes or by “having it all together” or by climbing up the motherhood totem pole.
You don’t have to jump through a certain set of hoops to obtain permission to be fully human as you were designed to be.
Motherhood is a beautiful, rewarding, fulfilling aspect of your identity… but it is only one of many.
Motherhood is very, very good, but it was never intended to consume the rest of you.
In my “More Than a Mom” Workshop, I discuss the reality of Personhood as Multifaceted Identity and then I go on to discuss the preservation of that personhood by the prioritization of overall wellness.
Available in the shop.
The idea that we can be only moms is a distortion of the reality of identity, and the idea that in order to be good moms we must be only moms is a damaging lie.
To allow one facet of our identity to consume the rest of us is to forfeit God’s design and to attempt to short circuit the work of becoming ones full self.
Our identities were designed to be multifaceted, multi dimensional, and kaleidoscopic.
To be less than we’re designed to be is to allow facets of ourselves that were created to be vibrant and thriving to become atrophied and malnourished instead.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also a friend.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also a wife.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also a minister.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also an athlete.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also an entrepreneur or professional.
You’re not a better mom when you’re not also a student.
You’re not a better mom when you stop exploring the world and pursuing goodness.
You’re not a better mom when you become anything less than a kaleidoscopic human with many passions and interests and gifts and relationships and joys and skills and pursuits.
You are not a better mom when you attempt to perform impossible magic by draining yourself of yourself in order to “have more to give”.
This simply doesn’t work.
You don’t earn the right to be all of yourself by perfecting your parenting or by checking an arbitrary amount of mom boxes or by “having it all together” or by climbing up the motherhood totem pole.
You don’t have to jump through a certain set of hoops to obtain permission to be fully human as you were designed to be.
Motherhood is a beautiful, rewarding, fulfilling aspect of your identity… but it is only one of many.
Motherhood is very, very good, but it was never intended to consume the rest of you.
In my “More Than a Mom” Workshop, I discuss the reality of Personhood as Multifaceted Identity and then I go on to discuss the preservation of that personhood by the prioritization of overall wellness.
Available in the shop.
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